We talked about how we've gotten caught in a cycle of being used or using this. Suddenly an onlooker wants to get to know us better, really bad. But to evolve past this point (rather than try to parry the person off or, worse yet, engage them for utilitarian reasons), I have grown to realize that it's important to deflect that person's ambition so that it points toward their own life.
It's only natural that people would think "wow, how do they do that?" But I'm here to say that such a question, in my mind, is quite mislead.
The real question rather is "what would it take to do that?"
It's the same with parents of healthy, happy kids. I don't have kids but when I see these parents with their kids I think "what would it take to do that?"
This question represents a powerful shift from wonder to action planning. And if you don't want to do exactly what is before your eyes, you can at least imagine how far you'd go with your own pursuits if you chose. None of us are more endowed with magic powers than others.
When you shift the question, you acknowledge that you could do it too, given that you apply what it takes to do it.
In the case of advanced yoga, dance, being a parent, knowing a second or third language, the key to doing any of these things is devotion.
The moments you catch someone in these moves, poses, or interactions with their healthy, happy kids, it all looks kind of easy and straightforward. But when you try it, you see it is not. You'd never be dropped into any of this, however. It's a gradual progression to get to it. Some days, some practices, some performances are better than others. The point is that you consistently give what it takes.
Magic is the product of devotion, it's that simple. And we, my friends, are magic if we so choose.